With the untimely death of people like Nipsey and Kobe there’s been hella articles published about their impact on not only the world but on black men as a their own culture. And rightfully so. They were two incredibly influential men. If you were born in the late 80s and early 90s you grew up with these men. Despite having never met them, their crafts, rap and basketball which are many urban children’s biggest dreams, fused a type of intimacy that cannot be described with mere words. So I stumbled upon this article from The Grio on the 30th (although it was written and published the day before that) and in part it says this,
“It’s ok to cry. Black people are probably some of the proudest and most unflinching humans on the planet, and our men in particular excel at this. As a result many of us women, can go years or perhaps even a whole lifetime never seeing the brothers around us shed a tear. The side effect of this is we often end up forgetting how vulnerable — and human — they are. But since Sunday I’ve seen men who I honestly didn’t even think had tear ducts, sobbing like little children, both in real life and on my television screens. And it’s been a bittersweet reminder about just how much “stuff” they hold in every day and teach themselves to push aside.”Blue Telusma
I admit I didn’t grow up completely immersed in black culture. I actually had a super weird but delightfully yet tragically diverse upbringing. Through it though I have definitely noticed that most people on the outside view us as emotionless. In reality we are bursting at the seams with emotion but it’s shown in different ways, namely anger.
So in an unorthodox way it’s been beautiful to watch Black Men mourn the death of Kobe. It really is okay to mourn. It’s important to grieve. It’s healthy to crave isolation or a shoulder to lean on during this time and times like it.
Vulnerability is part of the human experience. Take your time.